Texting might feel like a good way to avoid the initial awkwardness that sometimes comes with getting to know someone. But try not to rely too heavily on this kind of communication, especially in the early stages. If distance is an issue, consider video chatting. If you both enjoy texting, go for it.
Just take care to maintain balance. Save more intense conversations for in-person communication to help you avoid miscommunication. Avoid sending a lot of texts before you receive a reply. People get busy, and coming back to 12 messages after 1 day can feel overwhelming. When making plans with someone new, using things from your conversation or cues in their environment can help.
That can help someone feel more comfortable around you. For example, if you both have dogs, you might suggest going to a dog park. Using conversation cues can also help you know what to avoid suggesting. There may come a time when you arrive late or have to cancel your plans, but try not to let this happen often.
Some people love talking about politics, religion, past relationships, current relationship s , or any number of other potentially delicate topics. Save that one for the cozier late-night chat you might have a few weeks or months down the road. But pay attention to how they respond. If they give short answers, move to another topic. You usually have to offer some level of vulnerability before someone begins feeling comfortable around you.
But over time, you might naturally begin sharing more information about the things that matter in your life. But if you want your new acquaintanceship to develop into a close friendship or even a romance, you may not be able to get there without becoming vulnerable. It can take more than hours over a period of 3 months for a friendship to develop.
Just focus on spending time with the person you want to get to know, and use the tips above to help make that time count.
Also keep in mind that friendships may not always work out. Let them reach out to you next, if they still want to pursue a friendship. There are many health resources online, and despite the prevalence of these sites, it's still hard to find quality providers.
Think about how relieved you feel when you find a competent medical provider. Locating a great doctor is gratifying. Many health professionals aren't experienced with mental health.
That's why it's important to find a doctor who cares about your whole well-being. When you find a great therapist, it's the same feeling. You will experience relief when you click with an online therapist. There are so many ways to find a therapist, and seeking one online is easy. Why not give it a shot? Get quality mental health services. Many times, it is because of fear or embarrassment. Most patients with clinical depression or anxiety disorder have a hard time getting motivated in the first place.
They might need to find someone to talk to about their symptoms and experiences, but they don't know where to look. It's hard to locate a therapist, and once you find that person, it can be difficult to keep motivated.
Let alone trying to talk yourself into finding a therapist you like, making an appointment which is often months away , and then actually getting up the courage to go. Talking to a therapist or counselor online from the comfort of your own home makes it so much easier to get the help you need. It is also much easier for those who do not have access to transportation, people who live in rural areas, individuals who have physical limitations or disabilities, and those who are extremely busy.
You can "talk" out your feelings with your smartphone or tablet while your kids are playing at the playground or while you are in the car between appointments. With traditional therapy, it can be a hassle. You drive to the clinic, fill out a form, and then wait. Beforehand, you may call or visit, then wait for a few days, even though you may need to talk to someone as soon as you can because you're dealing with anxiety, stress, or other mental health disorders and concerns.
When you finally realize, "I need help," waiting can feel like forever. With online services like BetterHelp, it's easy. Just download the app, read the terms of service, enter some information, including your payment method or health insurance, and get started. What makes online therapy so nice is that you can easily have a live chat with a qualified professional. An online chat may seem like an odd way to communicate, especially if you're older. However, young people realize their potential.
In reality, many people feel lonely and are searching for someone to talk to you can find someone to talk to right now, at Supportiv.
They fear being judged as weird or unlikeable by their peers. This adds to the cycle of self-consciousness that might be keeping you from sharing in the first place. The first struggle is finding someone to talk to. When you feel more comfortable, you can bring in more details and talk about the more difficult feelings, too.
If you want to jump straight to the meat, or really need to get something off your chest right now , you can take a shortcut: an online peer support chat , where anonymity takes away your apprehension, and technology helps you find someone who will get it.
I know it is a horrible feeling and I should not see it this way. But I cannot control. I want to be better than others. Hi JoC18, I hope you have taken some of this advice on board but if you feel like you are still struggling I thought I would mention some things that help me when I am feeling the way you have mentioned. When you mentioned that sometimes to you just want to talk to relieve the negativity but you are just told that you are wrong, I wonder if the people you are talking to are trying to let you know that they feel differently about what you are saying and that they appreciate you for all that you are.
I understand it would be frustrating to hear that your thoughts are wrong as it can make you feel like your feelings are invalid. It might benefit you to tell them that when they say that to you, you feel even more upset. And from there you can try to have an open conversation about what they actually mean when they say this to you.
A little tip that might help give you confidence to be more open is to ask yourself these questions when you notice yourself talking negatively. Something I find helps me is reframing negative things I say to myself. So for example when I catch myself thinking "I'm so dumb I got such a bad grade", I will stop and pause and think "I wish I did better on that assignment, but I did my best".
Or I will challenge this original thought and say "What would I say to a friend in this situation" and then I will say that to myself.
I might even talk to a trusted friend and tell them that I'm feeling really down about the situation. They will then often remind me that there are different factors to consider in the situation.
So say I didn't spend as long as I could have on the assignment and trick myself into thinking 'well I didn't actually try my best', I might need to consider what else was going on in my life at the time and remember that I did my best with what resources were available to me at the time, for example only leaving myself 1 or 2 hours to finish it because I felt too exhausted leading up to it to start sooner. When it comes to comparing yourself to others, something that I do when I find myself doing this is to list 5 things that I am and I try to make it about my personality, for example resilient or thoughtful.
There are so many good things about each individual person including you and just like you see the positives in others you will benefit from pointing out the good things in yourself, to yourself. There is support for you here and we are listening. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. You are currently: Home Seeking support Helping yourself and others Online forums. Welcome to the Healthy Families forums!
Complete your profile Join the online community Community rules. Cancel The title field is required! So let me start I am upset about what I did in the past. Regards J. I hope you keep posting, Jess. Emmen Champion Alumni. Hello J, You sound like someone who analyses every aspect of your life thoroughly so that you can strive for perfection.
Keep sharing and talking these things through. You will not be judged here : Warm wishes, Emmen.
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